We all have been taught in school that ‘opposites attract’. Like a magnet, the divine polarity between masculine and feminine energy is not meant to create competition, but completion. In healthy relationships, each partner steps more fully into their divine role—allowing space for the other to do the same.

Men who embrace the divine masculine often find deep fulfillment in “doing”: providing, protecting, problem-solving, and pursuing purpose. When this energy is honored, they become grounded, purposeful, and engaged.

Women, when invited to rest into their divine feminine, often find themselves less overwhelmed, less anxious, and more able to nurture, create, and bring life into their homes and relationships. This doesn’t mean women should never “do,” nor men should never “be”—but that we thrive when we lean into our core energy more often than not.

Author and coach, Allie Duzett explains this in her book ‘Magnetic Femininity’:

“Where masculine energy is leading, feminine energy is following. This was very distressing for me to come to terms with… because I viewed myself as a leader. When I prayed about it, I heard, ‘You are the left hand.’ I was making cookies at the time. My right hand—the dominant hand—was stirring, representing masculine energy. But my left hand was holding the bowl. Without it, the process wouldn’t work. Both hands were essential, just in different roles. Being a follower is not ‘less than.’ The feminine energy enables masculine leadership. Without it, leadership cannot move forward.”

This idea may feel countercultural, especially today, when women are often encouraged to be “superwoman”—balancing careers, families, church, and community responsibilities. While women can do it all, the question is: At what cost to their spirit? Constant doing can lead to burnout and disconnection from their nurturing, creative essence. Taking a quick scroll on social media will indicate that that is exactly what is happening in society, as many women are expressing frustration with things like mental load, or feeling isolated in endless to-do lists. 

Likewise, men in today’s world may feel unsure of their role when women are constantly in “go” mode. Without a clear need to protect, lead, or provide, men may disengage—retreating into passive roles or addictive distractions like video games, sports, or digital escapes. Not because they are lazy, but because they no longer feel needed or empowered.