Preparing for Difficult Days
Written by Cheri Stirling
Many of us are watching the news a little more closely these days. With an upcoming election, a major solar eclipse, rumored diseases, conflict in Europe and the Middle East, inflation on the rise, it seems that we are getting closer and closer to the prophesied days we are all watching for.
Temporal Preparedness
Often, temporal preparedness is the first thing we think about when we think about when we start to prepare for the future. We’ve grown up with General Conference talks about having a balanced budget, and food storage, and these things are tangible. They are easier to “check off” the list. While every family’s temporal preparedness will look different, there are some things all of us can work towards as we prepare ourselves and our families.
1- Live Within Our Means
“All of us are responsible to provide for ourselves and our families in both temporal and spiritual ways. To provide providently, we must practice the principles of provident living: joyfully living within our means, being content with what we have, avoiding excessive debt, and diligently saving and preparing for rainy-day emergencies. When we live providently, we can provide for ourselves and our families and also follow the Savior’s example to serve and bless others.” Robert D. Hales
Living within our means can seem like a daunting task. Prices of everything are rising, it can be difficult to stretch our dollars, particularly as we are working to prepare for a day of want. The first step is to make sure that we have a solid budgeting system.
Do you have a functioning budget? Many people talk about how hard it is to keep track of their money. Budgeting can take several forms, based on your income and personal preferences. Some people find paper and pencil, while others prefer spreadsheets or apps that help them track their money. For tips and tools on how to set up a budget, check out our previous post Budgeting 101: A Beginner’s Guide to Budgeting.
Once we can see where our money is going, we can prioritize things like an emergency preparedness fund that goes towards things like food storage, generators, or projects around our home that would allow us to become more self-reliant.
2- Gather Essentials
If you tuned into Meghan’s episode with Lee Ostler, he recommended making a running list of the things you would like to have in an emergency. My husband and I have adopted this same system. Every few months, we sit down, and talk about a big wish list of things we would like to do to be more prepared. We talk about potential scenarios based on things we’ve seen coming in the news, things we have been studying in our gospel studies, and things that we’ve been wanting to add as we’ve been building our skills.
Then we set up a segmented list based on areas of need. We have a Home Projects section for things like home repairs or improvements (such is installing a solar panel, or caulking the windows), things that would make our home more inviting or comfortable in difficult times (For example, we have small children at home, so we are putting in a play area in the yard so our kids have somewhere to play this summer.) Then we have a Home and Food Storage section where we talk about foods in our traditional foods, as well as our sustainable food supply such as our garden and livestock. Next we have a Security and Protection list for keeping our family safe, Emergency Preparedness for camping gear, and 72-hour kits. Then we have a Medical category for medications, home remedies, and first aid needs. Our last category is Education because I teach homeschool, so we are gathering curriculum materials, books, and learning activities for our homeschool group business.
After we make our list, we highlight things we want to prioritize in different colors, however, when we make a family trip to DI, we will ‘splurge’ and get items that are lower down when they are a good deal!
3- Learn Important Skills
Another great way to prepare temporally is to learn new skills! There are many skills that were lost the last couple of generations that are currently making a comeback – particularly among the millennial generation. Things like making sourdough bread, baking from scratch, raising chickens or other livestock, gardening, and horticulture, and plant-based remedies and medicine.
Many of these skills open the door for a healthier, and more sustainable lifestyle. They allow us to have resources beyond just going to the grocery store. During the Covid lockdowns, I had a hard time finding cleaners, which got me wondering, ‘Well how did the pioneers do this?’ I began learning how to make cleaners with essential oils, vinegar and citrus rinds, and testing which cleaners worked best. I found that I hated homemade dishwasher detergent because it left my dishes cloudy, so I started researching how to find certain products with less toxins in them.
Now, we are working to raise meat rabbits, working on improving our gardening skills, and learning to can. There are so many skills that can improve our ability to provide for ourselves and our families.
A few ideas of skills that may help your family:
- Cooking from scratch
- Outdoor Cooking
- First Aid
- Soapmaking
- Making home essentials (such as cleaners)
- Gardening
- Plant Propagating
- Herbal Remedies
- Making a Fire
- Survival Skills
- Navigating
- Map Reading
- Raising Livestock
- Food Preservation
- Hunting
Mental Preparedness
How do you prepare mentally for the days ahead? We mentally prepare before a test, before an interview, before a big game, and we should do the same when we think about what to do before Christ returns.
1- Gather Books and Important Information
One thing we’ve started to do is gather things like books and documents we would want to have readily on hand. How often do our kids get a weird rash or a cough and we go straight to Google to figure out what may be the problem, or if we need to go to the doctor? How often do I go to Pinterest to look up that recipe I’m looking for? These resources, but if there were ever a time when the internet wasn’t available, what would we do?
We also have been collecting books, such as classic literature, and curriculum materials for my homeschool business, and to help our own children. I love to keep an eye open at thrift shops, or big sales at the stores, or watch garage sales and our local reading bus that gives out used materials the public schools are retiring.
2- Become Informed
Many people I know are so invested in their scripture study, and listening to prophetic counsel, but really shy away from anything news or politics related. Now, I am in no way suggesting you should waste your days listening to hours and hours of news reports or podcasts, but I think it’s also important to be informed.
As we anxiously await our Savior’s return, we want to make sure that we are also watching for the signs! This also helps us to make educated guesses on what to prepare for. As we see patterns emerging in the news, we can make decisions on how to prepare our families.
3- Create a Family Emergency Plan
Another great way to prepare mentally is to create a family emergency plan! Thinking about potential emergencies and creating a formal plan can help you work through the details. A plan allows us to create drills to help our families practice our routines. If you are looking to set up a plan for your family, check out our previous post, Creating a Family Emergency Plan for 2024.
Emotional Preparedness
Let’s think about the last time you or your family had a crisis, big or small. Maybe it was running late to something, or perhaps it was a bigger disaster like a rush to the hospital or flooding in the basement. How did you emotionally respond to that? Were you able to roll with the punches and emotions, or did you feel anxious and trapped?
Our world is currently facing a major mental health crisis, facing rampant anxiety and depression. As disciples of Christ, we know we are awaiting prophecies that foretell times that will test all of God’s children. With this perspective, we can see how important it is to also prepare emotionally, so that as times become harder, we will have the tools and resources to weather the storms.
1- Recognize What’s In Your Control
In the world we live in, we are constantly seeking control. As an elementary school teacher we often had charts to help our students learn what is and isn’t within their control. According to Psych Central, when we focus on things we cannot control, this can foster co-dependent relationships, and create more frustration. In difficult moments, it is helpful to focus on things that are within our control. (Even if it takes making a list!) The life-coaching team at Soul Salt offers this list to helps us recognize what are some of the things we can control:
- How we interact with loved ones
- How to spend our free time
- How we care for our mental health
- How we react to something negative
- How we take care of our bodies
- Our Mindset
- The Structure of our Day
2- Build Emotional Resilience
After we learn to recognize what is within our control, it’s important to start building emotional resilience. The Church has recently released a self-reliance course that is available online. In the course it says, “To become like the Savior, everyone will need to face challenges and hardships during this life. Dealing with life’s challenges successfully requires faith in Jesus Christ and emotional resilience. Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to emotional challenges with courage and faith centered in Jesus Christ, helping yourself and others the best you can, reaching out for additional help when needed.”
We can build emotional resilience through healthy habits. These include things such as sleep, spending regular time outside, clean eating, taking breaks from social media or the internet, exercising, practicing gratitude, learning real self-care practices, and scheduling regular breaks. We can also learn healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with anxiety, depression, or other mental health struggles. We can develop deep relationships with family members, neighbors, and friends that enrich our lives. Developing hobbies or talents that bring us joy.
3- Develop Coping Mechanisms for Stress
In addition to helping build emotional resilience, learning how to handle stress in healthy ways is a great way to prepare emotionally. Many of us live a life fueled by caffeine, junky snacks, and a steady stream of cortisol. Constant stress can lead to health problems, development of addictions or poor habits, and chronic exhaustion.
Some additional ways to manage stress (besides the ones we mentioned in the section above) include: deep breathing exercises, meditating, decluttering, and creating manageable routines.
Physical Preparedness
Another way to prepare for the future is to think about your physical health. Are we in a position that we could do what the Lord needed to physically? Probably all of us could improve in some way in this area. Our bodies are gifts from our Heavenly Parents, and it can be challenging to learn to use them, and care for them as best as we can.
1 – Focus on Improving Your Health
As we start to think about our health, it can be daunting to figure out where to start. Perhaps we can clean up our diet, lose a little weight, drink more water, or be more consistent with our workouts. You can seek guidance from medical professionals, or through personal revelation as to how best to improve your personal health.
2- Think about Potential Medical Needs
Another important aspect of preparing for our physical needs is to think about what you would need to provide for the medical needs of your family. Do you have a well-stocked medicine cabinet? Do you have home remedies for common ailments such as colds or the flu? Have you considered getting an emergency medical kit that comes with common prescriptions in case of supply chain issues. If you have specific medications or health needs do you have back up batteries and a supply of medications on hand? Thinking about these questions can help us identify needs our family may have we haven’t thought of yet.
Spiritual Preparedness
The most important area to be working on – and our emphasis at Latter-Day Disciples is spiritual. All of the other areas are good, and will be helpful in a moment of need. But our relationship with the Savior and our Heavenly Parents is paramount. We have been counseled by Church leaders and scriptural prophets to prepare for the coming events that will lead to Christ’s return, so let’s talk about some ways we can do that.
Create Good Spiritual Habits
Just like creating good habits supports a healthy physical body, it’s important to have good spiritual habits as well. We are all very familiar with the regular “seminary answers” to what to do to be spiritually prepared. But perhaps these questions can guide us to the next level:
- Do I have a regular time to study the gospel?
- Am I recording promptings and things that I am learning?
- Am I applying the things I learn?
- As I study, am I inspired with more questions to look for?
- Am I finding resources that are edifying and deepening my study?
- Do I have a regular or consistent dialogue with Heaven?
- Am I seeking answers through personal revelation?
- Am I coming to know Jesus Christ and my Heavenly Parents personally?
The days ahead will be challenging, but we have time now to prepare! We hope that these tips will help to guide you to your next steps preparing you and your family for the future.
Resources
Becoming Provident Providers Temporally and Spiritually, Robert D. Hales, 2009
Creating a Family Emergency Plan for 2024, Latter-Day Disciples Podcast, 2024
How to Focus on What We Can Control, Soul Salt Coaching
Balancing Spiritual and Temporal Preparedness with Lee Ostler, Latter-Day Disciples Podcast, 2023
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